To go along with AS, I also want to use my usual car analogy:

When you own a car, if you do the routine maintenance, then the car will hum along and perform as you expect it to. If you ignore the routine maintenance, you may get a warning light (see scenario #1), that will remind you "hey, vehicle ownership (like marriage) requires routine maintenance." So that would be an appropriate time to do the maintenance. However, if you blow the engine or have another major breakdown (ie scenario 2), the routine maintenance is no longer going to keep the vehicle running.

So, you see, being warm and loving would have worked at some point before BD, but now your engine is blown. And changing the oil isn't going to fix it.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018