Do not give her any books that you are reading and DO NOT SHARE this site w/her. The books on DB, DR and this site are for you and you alone. Knowledge is power and right now, you need to take care of you.

I wouldn't contact your wife unless you have an emergency. She needs time and space to figure herself out. Continue to work on you and if she does something nice or unexpected for you, thank her.

This is your time to work on yourself. Change the things that you think you need to change for the better for you. You do not make the changes to try to win her back....whatever changes you make, they must become a permanent change in your life. Always remember, actions speak louder than words.

Keep the focus on you for now.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.