bm, I am not sure of your financial situation. I find that most people tend to overstate how hard up financially they are. Meantime they have cable TV with every single channel, not to mention Netflix, Disney+ and other paid streaming services. They drive nice cars that cost a lot of money. And they have to have a top of the line smartphone with an expensive data plan. In other words, they are prioritizing in the wrong places.
I say all of that to say that if you stepped up and just said "You know what, I don't need your support. I can provide for me and mine on my own!" that your life moving forward would be a lot easier and a whole lot complex. I hear horror stories of LBSs (mostly LBWs) that get dragged into court over support on a regular basis. That would NOT be for me.
So just a thought.....tell her to take her support and shove it. That would be what I would do. Then she will have no connection to you except for S, and then you can concentrate on coparenting with her without any other baggage.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
