Additional question/thought: (apologies if this is addressed in the book - my copy comes Thursday)
How does one handle a 180 regarding the "as if" attitude? My attitude and stance has always been "I want to be with you and am OK alone." My H knows that I can be 100% OK sitting and home and move on from things. One of the issues in our marriage was me being too independent and him not feeling needed or wanted enough. Doing NC, doesn't that feed into that issue? I don't want to call him up wallowing and crying and begging, but how does one walk that line on a 180 while still giving space for him to think?
