Wow, it looks like it's time to wrap up another thread and begin a new one. I have to say that I'm really pleased at the topics that are being discussed here at the apartment. People drop in and throw out good food for thought... and I think it's great for all of us.
For any new folks to Piecing, Meredith, Pamela and I are shacking up. We welcome our visitors and I'm sure we'll be here for awhile... at least until NBC decides to have a series finale. Not tonight though!
I last left off with PIB about setting boundaries. The type of boundaries that are not directives or trying to control someone else, but the type that are things we have considered and decided are too important to pretend they aren't bothering us.
I figure I'm getting plenty of practice putting this into action.
I just received bad news from a former neighbor and friend. A very good friend of ours (Mr. Wonderful's and mine) was just diagnosed with advanced stages of liver cancer and is not expected to live much longer. He just turned 55.
It really bums me out.
But it also drives home a point that life is worth living--not psychoanalyzing to death. I decided to get out of my painful world and start reconnecting with friends who have been important but left behind because I didn't want to deal with thoughts of my estranged Mr. W.
It's now time to jump head first back into my life and quit looking backward.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Quote: But it also drives home a point that life is worth living--not psychoanalyzing to death. I decided to get out of my painful world and start reconnecting with friends who have been important but left behind because I didn't want to deal with thoughts of my estranged Mr. W.
It's now time to jump head first back into my life and quit looking backward.
Betsey
I really, really like this thought.
I actually think I am getting closer to there. I noticed even with bad spells that I have reached out some to friends this week, and started doing things around the house again a bit.
No longer just a sofa/computer potato.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
The C I saw for awhile and did discuss death with some, said dying makes life more meaningful and poignant. I think we were discussing this when my grandmother died.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
Hi everyone I thought I would drop by for a visit.
I just got home from counsuling.I'm going to post about it on my thread when I can get my thought together.It was a good one.So you know I have to think.
I like the start of this thread.I have to set boundries this week.And I'm not sure how or were to start.I don't want to push him.But I need to push him.
I have made a big decsion and I have to go with it.
Later My Friends.
Briget
The grass is always greener over the septic tank... Erma Bombeck
Treat hate with Love... DR. Martin Luther King
Betsy Soory to hear about your friend. From someone who has lived through it twice in our family I know how difficult it is. It just makes you appreciate how precious life is and that we shouldn't waste a minute. I try to remind myself of that every day.
God bless Joanne
Always questioning???
Not always sad!!!
Joanne
Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is to not stop questioning. Albert Einstein
Thanks for your well wishes. I'm going to head over to my old neighborhood to pay them a visit sometime this weekend. I would like very much to rebuild the Rs that were so important.
I received a poignant letter from D10 today for Mother's Day, which I want to share. She was really proud of the coupons she created for me (way cute and sweet), but this got me where it counts. Here goes:
I Love You Forever, Mom
You have shown me how to be a good friend, and tips on how to cook at different elevations. You have taught me how to care for pets, and how to use a sewing machine to sew. You have demonstrated how to be polite, and how to handle anger. You have handed down to me the passion to read books, and the earrings grandma had. You have set an example throughout your life what a mother and woman should be like. I am so proud of you, and I love you forever.
Love, D10
It was just too good not to share!
This afternoon, my boss found me sitting in his convertible with his younger brother, who also works for us. He works in a satellite office and is in town for a show. He also is one of my 3 advising couples--someone who had divorced his W of 23 years and have been happily remarried for 4.
Anyway, we were talking about where I am in my R with Mr. Wonderful. He wouldn't allow me to make excuses for him, but sat back in his seat and really listened. I ended up telling him that I think the reason he's not committing to a decision was fear.
He looked me square in the eye and said, "Bets, that fear is real, whether or not you want to see it from his POV. There are times when I'm on a business trip and my cell has no signal, and when J can't get hold of me, I know that those fears come raging to the surface. They take a lot of time and effort. Because she has a trust issue since I cheated on her."
Let me tell you, I felt more comfortable discussing the nuts and bolts of things. When I told him that I knew whatever decision Mr. W. makes is what is best for me in the long run, he smiled. He grinned from ear to ear and said, "I'm glad you and J didn't get here at the same time!" He figures that he and Mr. W. would be sitting in a bar and slugging down the beers if that were the case.
On the subject of Mr. W., he phoned me before I left the office to chat. He wanted to tell me that his bowling team came in 1st place and to commiserate about our former neighbor. I don't know what he's going to do if he divorces me, because I know I'm the only real friend he has. And that will change for awhile.
Ach well, time to clean up the kitchen and take D7 out for a ride on her bike.
Peace to all.
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Jumping headfirst back into life sounds just like the thing to do - I'm thinking that I'm more than ready. I'm ready to let go of that swinging vine (I mean rope) and plunge into the waters of life.
I've realized that I really need to work on the forgiveness issue, mainly because it is a gift I'll give myself. Life is too short. Your friend's problem shows that all too well. Sometimes we don't realize how lucky we really are.
I KNOW that things are going to work out well no matter what is the end result. Just need to keep focusing.
You should be extremely proud of your D. I'm sure she will become quite the woman - heck she already is! Have a happy Mother's Day.
Mary
"God, help me keep my head up, my heart open, and know I'll always be guided along the path."
Betsey 
