Thanks a lot for all the quick replies! I will be posting frequently and with shorter messages. I have now finished DR and I am waiting for DB while I read the 5 Love Languages. I also want to schedule telephone counseling here but with the holidays coming up and having to save to move back to Spain I was thinking about reading DB first and then asking for this.
I have a psychotherapist in Germany but he is basically only concerned about my wellbeing, which is good but not exactly what I need now.
No presents or pressure/ pursuing, understood! I need the support here because as an example last week our older S had birthday and I sent a message thanking her for arranging a birthday party and told her she is a great mom, which I genuinely think. Of course I got no answer so I have been thinking about how my 180 would look like:
- No comments or hints about OR - Being happy and the first one to end communication but always remain loving and open to R - Listening to her on every interaction like I have never done in my life - Being happy without her
I am starting my 180 yesterday but I have a big question about going dark. My problem has been I immersed myself on career and providing for a better school and house and totally neglected my marriage, it almost feels like I need to change into loving, through actions, but my W is still on fire and would not even stand me over the phone. Do you have any recommendations on this? Thanks a lot, I will read through all material today! Cant wait!
Me 29 W:29 M: 5yrs T:10yrs S:6yrs S:1 yr BD: "I want a D" 08/09/19 Sep: 10/27/19
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Me 29 W:29 M: 5yrs T:10yrs S:6 yrs S:1 yr BD: "I want a D" 08/09/19 Sep: 10/27/19
