I am reading, listening and I'm aware I'm whining. Let me explain how my brain works. I have to solve the problem in my head today. I don't have hope, or faith, nothing other than logic.
go to the gym. go for a run. GAL. pick a small goal and channel all the negativity into it. burn that negativity out. it doesn't matter how easy or how it is for him to find another woman. you shouldn't live your life comparing it to anybody's, much less his. it's all in your head. the circumstances might still be the same but once you flip the switch and change your perspective of it, your world will be different. you don't need to have hope, or faith, use logic right now. you're doing x and it's not making you feel better. don't do x, do something else.
Originally Posted by kas99
I'm fretting over not having a good man in my life to grow old with. I can't imagine any scenario that is different from the one in my head.
I've thought about that too. The thought of not being able to grow old together with my H, becoming loving grandparents together to our future grandchildren...etc was painful. But hey, who knows what's gonna happen 5, 10, 15 years down the road?? Focus on the present and let go of the fear of any uncertainty the future may bring. Focus on what you have control over at this moment. once you have small successes with that, it will slowly build you up. you will come out stronger.
