I just want to say that I was in no way putting down OLD. I don't have any frame of reference because I have never been on there, but, I do have two friends who married having met on a site. I also have heard many horror stories.
It is like that in life, too. I was just trying to get you to think outside the box some just to shake things up a bit as you are in a bit of a bad mindset right now.
Sometimes the way to climb out of it is to do something different, ya know? And sometimes when you keep thinking the same things over and over, they become a sort of reality.
So, you have to try to let go of what you thought you had and think about what you want...by that I mean, what you really want out of a relationship. What you will accept, what you wont, etc.
And then..just live your life. I know you... you will pick yourself up and get back on track. You are already doing it...
Just keep moving forward.
By the way, I met R in a meetup...and I wasnt even looking...was just looking for women friends.
As far as your dreams of your ex.....ewwww...lol...just kidding...kinda. LOL
I have let go of wanting an apology or anything like that. It matters not at all to me. I know my truth. And anything coming out of his mouth,holds no weight for me.