Absolutely I want someone. I’ve been single for the greater part of 12 years. Took my time to focus on my daughter, heal from the pain and anger and then I discovered me again and for a while Ioved being single! No one to answer to, had a great time just hanging out with my best girlfriends, just enjoying life.
I became whole. I got off that couch, I discovered hobbies I enjoy. Advanced my degree in nursing. Bought a house. Been on a few vacations. I’ve loved me, I’ve loved life, and now I do have a desire to be with someone to share all of that. It’s a want. I want it, I don’t NEED it to survive or live a life. I have slumps around the holidays and I’m a few months out of a relationship that I thought was going somewhere and I bonded with his son and I miss him horribly. but I’m picking myself up and moving forward even though I feel kind of down. I don’t waste my mental energy on my ex BF. The only thing that weighs on my mind is his son.
You completely focused on none of the reality of what I said, but instead your mind is thinking about how your H will never have to online date? How in god’s name can this make your life any better?! You are wasting your mental energy that needs to be focused on you.
Please read what I wrote you multiple times. Really take it in. Because you are spinning in circles, hearing nothing of what we are saying and are so focused on made up scenarios of your H. Ask yourself how this is helping you at all.
I understand you are hurting. But if you don’t want to hurt anymore, you have got to take steps towards that. You have to do the work. It’s some of the hardest work you’ll ever do, but you have to do it
