Just wondering...... do you think a pit of despair is attractive to a potential mate? What’s attractive is a woman who is out there doing things, has her cr@p together, loves herself and loves her life and doesn’t need a relationship.
Do you think you can make sure your kids are out on their own and taken care of from being a pit of despair on your couch? Is being a pit of despair something that your ex would find attractive and want to try to be a better man and husband?
You can have your end goals of wanting a happy healthy relationship and your kids thriving on their own. But you got to lay the groundwork for that
