If you are expecting your Husband to show up on bended knee, with chocolates, roses and a box from Tiffany's, get over it.
For them to come back, and actually want to come back they are going to have to see that you are not the same person they walked out on.
Changes have to be made. Unfortunately, their changes take much longer, and it will take a long time for their growth to catch up to yours.
In the beginning when they come home they will still be testing you and watching you to see if you have truly forgiven them and are a safe person.
There will be MLC moments from time to time and the piecing requires alot of patience.
It takes time for them to feel comfortable in their own skin again.
The apologies will come and the remorse and bits and pieces of their adventure out in lala land. This will happen when they are ready to talk. They can't be bombarded with questions.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
