She said during some small talk that her sister invited her camping next July, and that she couldn’t even think about what’s happening this Monday, let alone next July. Also misremembered something while we were chatting and corrected herself after saying she misremembered because of her “fog.”
Interesting term, misremembered. Even more interesting, it's due to her fog. I guess I'm in a fog, too. Mine is called forgetfulness.........old age....... loss of short term memory...........or......misremembered.
I want to go back to a post in your previous thread where we had been talking about tough love. I had asked how you pictured tough love, or what did it look like to you. You answered with the following:
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I see tough love as treating as if I know she's having an A. It's about trying to regain her respect. I Agree that's not mean, angry etc., but I'd be a little bit less happy cashier.
Before getting further on the topic of tough love, let me try to make a correction in how you must have interpreted one of my analogies. You are a customer in a store, and you take your items to the checkout aisle. That's where the cashier will total your purchases. The cashier may say hello, ask if you found what you needed, and demonstrate politeness and cheerfulness while you make the business transaction. You, the customer, may return the same measure of cheerfulness & politeness. Depending on the time the transaction takes, you & the cashier might make polite small talk. Once the transaction is completed, you leave the store.......and the cashier greets the next customer. You do not hang around the store, casting longing glances toward the cashier. You don't ask the cashier nosy/personal questions. You don't try to get a little hug/kiss. A fairly healthy-minded customer would know the appropriate conduct to demonstrate during this small transaction. He would know the conversations and actions that would be unacceptable and/or inappropriate. He keeps it short, polite, impersonal, and strictly business.
So, back to the subject of tough love. I believe some people struggle with the term, tough love. I read one place that said tough love was a misnomer, and I have to agree. Maybe we should rename it.
To clarify what it's not: Tough love is not the renaming of abuse..........and abuse is not the definition of tough love.
(I meant to say more, but have to close for now.)
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
