Well...I had a great Thanksgiving break with the kids. We were gone nearly five days. I didn't hear a whole lot from H while I was away, but he did send the occasional text about what he'd been up to. I tried to stick to the DB principals as far as my responses went.
H still hasn't made any movement on the legal paperwork I sent him, but he did have a whole bunch of my stuff packed up when I arrived back at his house. I think I must be succeeding at detaching, because I didn't react to this at all. I just told him I'd be back for my stuff, but I did not feel like loading up the truck in the dark after just spending the last three hours driving in post-Thanksgiving traffic. He seemed to accept this.
What's really weird is that as I was leaving, H kept telling me to drive careful. This might not seem like a significant thing, but even prior to BD, H wouldn't have expressed so much concern. I live less than five miles away, so it's not like I was going far. I tried to avoid interpreting any sort of meaning from this, but about thirty minutes after I got home, H sent me a message to thank me for bringing the kids dinner. This was weird too--I always send the kids home with dinner, and I couldn't help but wonder if H was actually fishing for a response to see if I made it home ok. I took the bait, in any case.
Later that night, I unintentionally stumbled across something I wrote about the breakup we had prior to our marriage. It was something I wrote after we were already married, and was about signs the "ex" gave when they were starting to come back around. In my husband's case, the first obvious thing I noticed (and H later admitted I was right) was that he started getting concerned for my safety, especially while I was driving. I guess this could be an odd coincidence, but who knows. I'm just trying to play it cool and stick with the DB stuff.
