Here is where I’m stuck. it seems like the only people happy post divorce are those who partnered back up.
Hi Kas, I'm happy and I'm not partnered up. My last words to my ex were, "I'm thankful I met you to discover what love is and have our amazing adventures, even if I wish we could continue them." I post during the hard moments--the sour hour when I awake, when I get a text from my ex. In-between I'm calm and happy. If Facebook and photo albums show mostly our happy moments, I propose that support forums show mostly our sad moments. I judge my days more happy than sad between my kids and career.
PS - Some comments I've received have been tremendously helpful when my calm breaks down--your support, May's pointing out I don't need external validation for work I know I did well, and AnotherStander prompting me to re-write why my ex and I (as-is) are never, ever, ever getting back together.
Originally Posted by kas99
Work is killing me today.
My work is a source of joy and fulfillment. Is there another career you'd enjoy more? I do set boundaries. Last Wednesday I worked hard down to the wire--5:59pm. Then I stopped completely until today.
Originally Posted by kas99
I’ve got kids who need me and I just can’t date. I know people do it but I won’t.
Dating can be achieved without impacting the kids on lunch breaks, when going out to get exercise, and after the kids go to bed. I know plenty of full-time moms who date. Of course, you should only date if and when you feel like it! Nothing wrong with choosing to stay single. I know single moms in that camp, too.
::Hugs:: and wishing you well. I hope your day brightens!
