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[Ready2Change]

Hi SC,

I arrived here 10 years ago. I have learned a lot.

H says 90% 95% Whatever. How long do you want to wait until he says 100% or 0%? Personally I would not wait.

Most posters wait too long to take action. Most posters give all the power to "decide" to the unhappy spouse.

Have you read through all 9 quote threads as well as my book recommendations?
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2870386#Post2870386
If not, take some time to absorb as much as you can.

If you read all the quotes, You will have wise words from coach, Robx, AllenA, and many other posters.

I believe you are ahead of most posters on your DBing. Keep learning and changing. Focus on your personal growth.


Right now is a time to challenge your belief system. Things that work are almost always counter-intuitive.

For example, I would tell him that you don't believe MC is working. I would tell him that you would like to attend retrouvaille to see if R is even worth saving. We can start the D paperwork when we get back.


How do you show high value? By turning down AT LEAST the next two times he wants to spend time with you.

Learn to give vague answers.

H:"Did you do anything fun today?"
2 hours later W:"Yes, I did"