Gee Roo I'm so sorry about your mum. That's got to be really tough having her fling all that stuff at you.

With your comment about XW being just like mum, do you think this was a subsonscious motivation or spark of chemistry that attracted you to your XW? I'm not asking to be weird or anything, just some of the stuff I've read says sometimes the spark of attraction is made subconsciously and we essentially "marry our mum (or dad)" to heal unresolved issues of put us back into the environment we had when growing up.

Great to hear about the xmas tree and all the fun you had with D!

Cheers, DS


Me: early 40's
XW: nearly 50
T: 15
M: 5
BD: Jan 19
S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24