I had a surprising text from OW on Thursday letting me know that she and XH know that I am on this site and that both of them have read EVERY ONE of my over 1,000 posts. If it wasn’t enough that some perfect stranger wandered into my life uninvited, helped herself to my H and stole 50% of my time with my children from me... she and XH thought it would also be a good idea to essentially break into my therapist’s office and hide in the closet so they could hear every single thought I have ever had about it. And not only that, since I have mostly written about my life apart from all of that over the past six months, they’ve also been voyeurs into my dating life and my relationship with Jack. It feels like they broke into my house, stole my diary and read it cover to cover. Such a violation of my privacy! I would say that it is unbelievable except when it comes to XH, nothing surprises me anymore. If my daughter ever decides to keep a diary, I will make sure it stays at my place.
Can you believe OW actually had the nerve to be upset about what she had read and, get this, told me I should have used their real names? Huh??? Here’s a thought...if you don’t like what you are reading, why don’t you stop reading it? It’s not like I sent you an invitation and a link. And do you not understand why forums like this are anonymous? It’s so we can work through one of the hardest times of our lives without the people in our real lives being affected. What if I hadn’t found this forum and instead gone onto social media or contacted XH’s friends and family or talked to the numerous mutual acquaintances we have in the school district they both work for? I could have made life very, very difficult for both of them. But I didn’t. I also steered clear of social media and did not say one word about it even though I would certainly have been justified in doing so. They both got off so easy, they have no idea. One thing is for sure, if I ever thought my XH had changed in any way, he just proved me wrong. And it appears he has found someone exactly like him.
So....I have blocked her on my phone as there is no need for she and I to have any contact with one another. I also told XH that if he has anything to say to me, he can say it directly as he doesn’t need someone to fight his battles for him. Not that there are any battles despite this recent attempt to create one. XH and I have been doing really well coparenting and I expect that to continue as he is smart enough to know that he and OW are in the wrong here. Hopefully, they have figured that out and have given up spying on me but just in case they haven’t, I’m only going to post on other people’s threads for the foreseeable future. If I do come back and want to post about my life, I won’t do it as DejaVu6 though but I will find a way to let you all know it is me.
Anyway... thank you all so, so much for being there for me and for helping me get through this awful time in my life. Even though we have never met IRL, you have been my biggest supporters... encouraging me when I needed it and giving me 2x4’s when I needed those too. I would not be doing half as well as I am now if it weren’t for you and I am forever grateful. I love you all. (((HUGS)))
