Why do you say you can guarantee her H will be back and it’s too early in the process? She said it has been two years. I’m just curious. I have had many people say a similar thing to me about how it’s only a matter of time and the real question is what my response will be when she does come crawling back etc.
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I’m really sorry to read about your sitch. I related a lot. My W said the exact same things to me after her first A, that she was too scared to lose me, afraid she would regret everything for the rest of her life etc. Flash forward a year, we have deja vu and she is in another A. Those feelings of fear of loss and regret are not enough for successful recon. It is awful to experience the hope they bring, and in my case it brought me all the way to false recon for over a year, only to be crushed all over again. Take solace knowing that if your H ever does come back, all this time and roller coaster ride is necessary to have a true long term reconciliation.
