Also my speculation on your W having separation anxiety is just speculation and mind reading. I agree if you validate that without her directly expressing it, it will backfire. But it may help you understand her mindset and thus avoid stepping on an emotional landline during these tricky interactions. She’s not trying to destroy you. It ticks me off what S and D are doing to my kids too, and I think it’s good to acknowledge your anger and resentment and frustration, just keep that stuff out of your interactions with your W. It’s all business.
