Hello LH19 and Ready2change, it’s been forever since I’ve logged in. Thank you for checking up on me.
A lot has happened in my sitch.
* my husband cancelled his move. This gave me so much hope. * he then declared his love for me and told me that he wanted to work on our marriage. * he said so many things that sounded promising. He loved me. He was scared of leaving because he was afraid he would lose me and that he would be making the biggest mistake of his life.
* he said he wanted to work on himself and even suggested Marta is he counseling. * he said I was a good wife and he realized that there was nothing wrong with his marriage. * that gave me hope. He started to act, talk, and sound like his old self. I thought for sure he had come out of the MLC tunnel. * Then he went away on a business trip and when he came back I found lingerie in his bag. Yes I snooped because my gut told me something wasn’t right.
I confronted him about it and of course he apologized...she means nothing...says he wasn’t able to perform so it doesn’t count as an affair. I told him that it does. Turns out it was the chick he met in Hawaii a year and a half ago. She came to visit family and he just so happened to be working in the city she was visiting. Yea...
* so he says he ended it with her before he left. She’s married. Yeah... * We had a blow up about that and some money he’s been taking out of our joint bank account....the money is missing. He claims he spent it how he wanted to and that it’s his money. * So after the blow up, he told me he wants a divorce. * He said he no longer has it for us. That he was just holding on because he was scared to let go. Says he hasn’t had it for us for years. * He then says that all this time he’s been thinking something is wrong with him and it’s not. He just doesn’t want to be here anymore. *Says he doesn’t know where he will go or what he will do, he just knows he doesn’t want to be here anymore.
* he hasn’t filed for divorce yet. Says he wants to wait until we finish with the projects we have for our house. * we still sleep in separate rooms and we barely talk to one another.
So there is my eventful update.
So looks like divorce is in my future.
So I’m just focusing on me as usual.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
