Let’s stop bashing online dating because it’s not supposed to be online dating, it’s just online meeting. And if you’re out of your 20’s, and don’t work around the opposite sex, you’re likely to meet more potential dates online than in real life.
Take me - divorced in my 50’s, the only single men I meet at work are patients (absolute no-no!). In the ten years since my divorce I’ve dated several men but only ONE that I met in real life (Mr Big Lots, who picked me up while I was shopping in Big Lots. ) And although he was cute and sexy, I’m not sure I would have dated him if I’d screened him through OKCupid, because we really didn’t have much in common.
Yes there are scammers online - there are scammers and pickup artists at your local bar too. I don’t drink much and any guy my age who is still hanging out in bars picking up women is probably an alcoholic. I met some men through my band class and later performing but most were married or otherwise not a match - just friends, all of them. No handsome single fan has ever introduced himself from the audience when I’m performing. I’ve never met a potential date when attending concerts.
So really, my best source of dates has been online. At least I can usually screen them for basic literacy, political leanings, interests and hobbies, smoking status etc. That’s a lot more than I could screen for in a bar.
