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Hey SC, sorry to hear about your sitch. One thing to add to the above is that it sounds like he wants to be friends with you and, while that may seem to be better than being enemies (or nothing) it may limit your ability to R. What's the best way to get out of the "friend zone"? It's not by being a better friend. So, the non-date dates, hanging out, etc., - drop those. Do you have other people you can grab beers with? Go with them. You said that you are in a running club - run more, join a gym, take a cooking class.

Great job on not bringing up the relationship - drop the rope, take the pressure off, focus on yourself.

I'll echo the above comments re: violence - I misbehaved in a very different way in my relationship and it has taken over a year for me to figure out the real cause (or, at least, what I believe to be the cause). Remember: actions not words. You can say that you'll never do it again but, if he'd asked before the last time you did it you likely would have said the same thing. Work on the causes of this behavior - it will benefit you no matter the outcome.

Keep posting, we're here for you!