Thank you for the reply. I am more hesitant because I do have a soft spot for people in distress. I don't want to see anyone in pain, even her. I would not do anything romantic with the ex, I have moved past that. I do think I would succumb to the manipulation and give her what she is after--money, pity, an embrace....who knows. Last time it was money, her asking we fire our lawyers and then she wanted me to pay for kids birthday party--which I would have done anyway. 3 days later she was back to a monster.
As for the GF, we are very open about our ex's. She is aware of what happened before. I also informed her about this and she said to do whatever I need to do. I have had checkpoints throughout this process and know I could never be back with her. Being on my own has shown me a great deal about just how controlled and unhappy I was. The narcissistic patterns are too much to handle. Not to mention, everything else that happened is just too much to grasp and make sense of. I cannot trust her and probably will not be able to for years, even after she snaps out of this.
