I am sorry you are going through this. I think you’re doing the right things. Just remember to detach yourself from any outcome and be prepared to find OW. I know you said there wasn’t, but it’s extremely rare for that to be the case. In my own situation, I was convinced there was nobody else—there was no secrecy, or signs, or anything. But two months into our separation, I called his bluff and H finally admitted to sleeping around. There was no specific OW, but he was still unfaithful.
