I guess my goal is to save the marriage, if only by being able to discuss my perspective of what was going on with me in terms of the lack of intimacy. I want her to at least acknowledge or reflect on that it's not as black and white as she's making out.
That's not going to happen is it .lol Deceiving myself there may be a chance of saving it if I could only talk to her. Pure pursuit and initiating a relationship talk.
Pretty sure she would not agree to attend anyway. But may help with seperation.
