DV - so so good to hear from you. I was trying to find your thread to see how things are going with you but failed miserably ...
I've noticed the hero theme coming out in some of the threads here. It is, I believe, a symptom of the transition, but seems to manifests in men who have been married to independent women. It stems from their own insecurity. They marry because these type of women are a kind of reflection of what they want to be - an extension of the image they want to project. But, after many years, they resent our strength because in their (insecure) minds it highlights their weaknesses. It is a strange and self defeating dynamic. It was most obvious in Yorkies sitch, but I think has relevance to your own.
Anyway, my thoughts only and something for you to ponder.
Resentment is hard to banish. Love turned to anger, watered down to resentment. But it starts with love. Remember you resent because you once loved. I think if we can remember the love and let go with love, then the positive co-parenting relationship is much easier to maintain. This is a hard road to walk and sometimes even I still stumble,
Thank you for your kind words. We went through this together and you don't know how much it meant to me that you were there. I would shut my laptop and realise that the words I spoke to you often also applied to me. So, in a way, we were not only supporting each other, I think we were also learning how to heal ourselves. And the warm hugs and the virtual cups of tea were always a god send.
