Own the part of it that you control and leave the rest be. I am very impressed by your attitude and your understanding that this is not the end of you. Your life will go on in a fabulous way with people who deserve to be in it.
Thanks OwnIt! I'm still catching up on other people's threads. Do you have any desire to reconcile with OD? It's been 6 months since BD for me and my psychic said I'm doing so well with my healing, it's more like 12 months along. I'm still learning to act on principle, not emotion. It is very hard, which is why NC is the best thing for me until I get a better handle on my reactions. You seem to be very, very skilled at this. I will learn from your steadfastness.
In many ways, this situation is a blessing for me and my son. He is too young to experience or understand the emotional turmoil caused by the breakdown of his family and his father's behaviour. I can guide him through age-appropriate explanations of what happened as he gets older and begins to ask questions. I hope he will judge the situation for what it is. But hopefully, this life will just become the norm for him.
As for me - I'm financially independent. I've just entered my 30s. I look better than I have in years. I'm taking care of my mental health. I have strengthened my connections with family and friends. I feel a deep satisfaction and contentment about my life. Of course, I am still dealing with the trauma of being abandoned and betrayed, and probably will for quite some time. But those pockets of overwhelming emotion are fleeting. Best of all - my conscience is clear and I have no regrets.
