Okay so the W just called me. Asked me about kid schedule for tonight, that we just discussed 3 hours ago via text. She never calls anymore, so I found it odd anyway, but anyway, she's clearly crying and having a hard time keeping it together on the phone. I ask her what's going on, she said oh just work, and she's now bawling and barley keeping it together. I tell her, "I'm sorry work is so stressful right now, I'm sure you can handle it". She just says it her fault, everything is just so stressful right now. I tell her if she wants to talk about what's going on at work she can but I'm sure she can handle it.
She then ask me, " how are you doing, seriously how are you doing". Just reply, "not bad. Seriously though you can talk to me, I'm sure you'll be okay, I've always listened and supported you".
W: "I know you have, I appreciate it so much! (Still crying) I want you to talk to me and tell me how your doing".
Me: Thanks, okay.
W: "Seriously how are you doing, you can talk to me!" Almost pleading.
Me: I know this sounds dumb but it's what I did to get away from the conversation. Acting like I just seen someone, "Oh hey how are you doing!" Then to my wife, "Hey I got to go, I'm sure work will be fine, and sorry it's stressful. See you when you drop girls off tomorrow!" Then hung up.
Kept a calm, polite tone the entire time. She tried to get me to say things, to tell her how I'm struggling or whatever, and I didn't (even though I wanted too!).
She has never had job issues until OM, pretty much been constant since then. Even when I was at home they were starting, pretty sure work is where she communicated constantly, and at that time was texting and calling me alot. Doesn't see the job problems are probably connected to OM.
I'm sure I could have done things better but felt like an improvement. Before I would have went full relationship talk, how much I love her, how I'm always available to her, and so on.
So I guess I'm looking for feedback on the good and bad.
Last edited by JC08; 11/28/1912:16 AM.
Me 34 Her 34 T:16 years M:11 4 Daughters: 10,7,6,3 Her EA May 2019 Separated July 30th 2019 Her PA Started August 1st, 2019 Filed October 3rd, 2019
