Steve, this is where I am struggling, on the one hand I feel the claims are exaggereated and on the other I accept that I have also caused harm through Ngs, avoident attachment , passive aggressive and controlling behaviours.
So I feel stuck between acceptance of my failings, being accountable ( which is a 180 for me) and the exaggeration of everything I did or didn't do as abuse.
R2C In terms of personal growth I'm meditating regularly, reading a ton of self help books, managing my mental health more effectively, making small inroads into regaining weight and eating regularly, bought a bike and getting more exercise than I had in years,also seeing an ic.
It's little things, including getting out and establishing new friendships, being less isolated and closed off and being more open with people and life.
Less afraid of life but still a lot of fear based thinking about the sitch and my w.
