Thanks Steve, I started it 2 days ago, working my way through it, it's hitting a lot of nerves and on some level I think in some cathartic way my mind is fighting it, saying no j, nice her back, making excuses for me and her.
I know the emotional abuse angle from her is confusing things, all advice online etc says the abuser can only change if he takes full responsibility for his actions and admits everything to his victim etc.
I want her to trust me again, and it feels like a trap if I own up to everything she is saying. She's also making it clear she will never trust me until this happens.
Don't get me wrong I hold my hands up to failing her in so many ways, especially making her feel loved and respected, I took the relationship for granted.
Going to keep reading, just unsure at this stage how to balance this with the accusations, her experience and beliefs are her truths.
