Last few months have been busy. I’ve still been talking to my coach on a roughly bi weekly schedule. Things with W have improved greatly but there is still a long road and a lot of work to go.
The W and I have been spending a decent amount of time together. We’ve gone on some dates, both with and without our son. We have gone on two weekend trips, she has spend the night at my house a handful of times. We are in contact mostly every day. I am continuing with my GaL and she is as well.
It seems that her heart is softening towards me finally. She is no longer critical and hasn’t shown disrespect. I have 180d on all negative behaviors and I think she is finally buying into these changes.
The s*x is consistent although not as often as I would like. There has been lots of physical contact and occasionally I notice her reach out and rub or grab my arm in public. Recently we began kissing again. Not every time we see each other but she is becoming far more receptive to it. Man I must sound like a 12 year old getting excited about kissing haha.
Long ago I was given advice from Steve about filling her love bucket, in my case, words of affirmation. At the beginning of my sitch, when I started trying to use words of affirmation, my W wouldn’t even acknowledge what I said. Now she is very receptive and even appreciative of my words of affirmation.
Improvements are slow at this point but looking at all the progress made in the past 8 months, many positives can be seen.
My W and I still have insecurities about each other and I am working on dismissing these thoughts. I haven’t asked her to move back in yet and I don’t think we should rush into living together again. I want to make sure we can reconnect and work through some issues before making such a drastic change.
We argue occasionally but I feel I am able to handle these much better after all of the reading and advice I have received throughout this sitch.
Lots of work to do still. But things are getting better. Hope everyone’s well.
