Slow and Steady

[Jac12]

Hi All - I'm kind of feeling like my W is playing me. Maybe it's just the fear talking but I'm a little worried that she' being nice to me and opening up with me so that way I'm "nicer" in any divorce proceedings or legal separation we do.

We spent the weekend toilet training our son and we had a good time. She opened up about some things, had some cries, and I felt like we were connecting more than we have in the past few years.

Here's the thing: it "feels" very genuine but she has yet to say anything specific about her feelings towards me and us, except for apologizing for how she behaved last winter. Is this a red flag this early (her fog has been slowly lifting over the past couple of months)?

I just find myself fighting between trusting what I'm feeling vs. not trusting her motives. That sounds sad to say about someone you married...but it is what it is.

Any thoughts?

I also know I need to detach and GAL more than I'm currently doing...I read over Robx's old posts and I'm nowhere close to where he was mentally.