When he comes out of the limerance phase, he is going to hate his life. This after 14 years together... like none of it mattered.
Yeah... It's just so hard to wrap your brain around how someone that you cared so much for over a decade and thought they cared about you can just throw it away so quickly with seemingly no remorse whatsoever.
I think that having thoughts such as "when he/she comes out of the limerance, they will feel terrible" are actually bad thoughts for us betrayed spouses to have. Chump Lady equates karma to a bus, and we're sitting at the bus stop waiting on the karma bus to come... For some people, it never comes. I have a co-worker who was married 7 years and her XH walked out on her for OW and now they're married and have two children together. It's been many years now, and she'd still be sitting at the bus stop =/
I mean I know this is anecdotal, but I think it helps us to have the mentality that we could completely careless if karma does come their way or not.
