I cheated, we survived, now my wife's cheating

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So this weekend was another disaster for me, shocker I know! Anyway. W had the girls this weekend, they are 10,7,6, and 3. Saturday she went to one of her families Thanksgiving's with the girls. Well later in the evening my W's dad calls and ask if I could come help him track a deer, so I did, got that done and he tells me to come over to the house and visit a while. I still talk to her parents daily, she told me when we separated not to cut her parents out, that I meant to much to them.

Anyway, get to their house and my oldest two daughters are there and say they are staying the night, that they came home from the Thanksgiving with grandma, I have been there like 5 minutes, W walks in with clothes for the girls, I make small talk, how are you, how was Thanksgiving, she answered with one word snaps so I leave, figure I'm intruding on her space or something.

Her dad calls me a few minutes later and says after I left my W asked where I went, why I left, if she made me mad, her dad just says oh he was about to leave when you got here so I don't think so. Said he really wanted to tell my W that she was being rude and hateful, what did she expect. Said she left right after, hardly said anything, and was in a rush.

Well found out she was in a huge rush because she took the little two and went to the steak house in my hometown(500 people), and went out to eat with OM and his kids. I mean several people text me and said that they thought it was shitty because she brought the kids, I guess they have been regulars there lately, but now she's taking the kids. She dropped the kids off Sunday evening, didn't take long for it to come out of the little ones mouths, then my oldest daughter told the little two not to say things about stuff like that, mom said not to say anything about any of it. I ask my oldest one if she's met OM and his kids, tells me yes, couple weeks ago on a Friday night they went over after my W got home from work and stayed until after 11 pm.

I'm pissed that she's introducing the OM to my kids, I'm pissed that she's not making them a priority when she has time with them, she has multiple times had them stay the night with grandparents/aunts or had her niece come over and stay so she can go see OM. It such a transition for the kids, especially the oldest one, and she still can't put them first or spend quality time with them when she has them, it is just about the OM. My oldest daughter said she Facetimes and text OM daughters all the time(same age as my oldest) but she never calls or text when I have the kids. She'll go from Friday morning dropping them at school to Sunday at 5 without ever talking to them, asking about them, or anything, and that is every single weekend I have them.

Plus the fact she's always telling me she wants to be friends, she's not trying to hurt me, she's not trying to shove the OM down my throat, on and on. Really you can't go out to eat somewhere else? Even her mom told me Saturday evening, she calls to see how I'm doing after I leave for the way my W was to me, and tells me that the way her daughter is being how I'm being so strong. I don't feel strong, she says I can't believe you haven't blew up at her, How I'm hanging on to hope, and not just completely gave up. That if it was her she would say good riddance and shut her out.

Anyway, just another day/weekend of the continued craziness.