Ok, so it sounds like neither wants it, but wish to sell and split the proceeds? Am I right?
So is the house for sale? If not, speak to your L about getting it done. Give W a panel of 3 agents and she chooses 1, within 7 days. If she doesnt choose, you choose. If she doesn't sign the agent appointment, take legal action to force the sale.
Is the mortgage in joint names?
What does 'get out 50/50 while I am ahead' mean?
You can keep praying and loving her, but the limbo will eat away at you like cancer and you will be a shell of a man.
If the house is being sold, then look at your options for moving out in the meantime, with W paying the mortgage till its sold.
Not sure how it works in the USA, but surely you can come up with some sort of binding agreement/order that spells all this out and gives the roadmap of who does what/lives where pending the sale. Work on it with your lawyer and hand it to her once done. Once all is binding, then take steps to either move out, she moves out or whatever.
If she refuses to sign agreement/move forward etc, then speak to your L about initiating legal proceedings. Please note I'm in Oz so you'll need to bear in mind we may do things differently here.
Just get it listed for sale.
Chin up mate. Cheers, DS
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24
