Post Birthday BD

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A few days later, her mother texts me and informs me that she would be going with my W & S4 to the dental surgery so there is no need for me to go because my W thinks it would be too confusing to see both of us there at the same time. I replied back that I was his father and I wanted to be there in case something happens because of the anesthesia. That this is how co-parenting works and that I will forever be his father but cannot help that she no longer wants to be my W. I informed her that if it was too much for them, I would just handle it myself. She replied back "No, we can all just go".

Personally I would not have gotten involved in any discussion with them after she didn't reply to your request. I would have contacted the place where S4 was getting the surgery and shown up to support S4. When I showed up I would concentrate on S4 and make sure there were no problems on my end.

A few days later, my S4 starts talking about bed-time and he told me that he stayed at AP's house the other night with my W and actually slept in between both of them.

This hurts like hell but there is nothing you can do about it. Yes it [censored]! You can speak to W about it but it will just make things worse and she would just deny it anyway. If you divorce you can try to get something in your divorce decree that your ex cannot have overnight visitors, or provisions around sleeping arrangements.

I mean some people have told me they don't introduce new partners until so many months after the divorce is finalized and all of that, and my S4 is already sleeping in the bed with my W's AP.

Most of the books and the therapist my D13 has says it would have been better to wait a full year before something like this. Once again you can't control who your wife has become only yourself. I find it curious because I bet if you had cheated on your W with another women, and then moved out to be with her, and had S4 start calling her mom, your W would go ballistic.