Do you have a bucket list? I do! Not being a couple opens up a TON of free time to do the things you’ve always wanted to do, while she watches the kids. Alternatively, a year from now, who do you want to be?
My only caution oz is be careful thinking you've arrived. Many a LBS has thought they were 100% detached, and then when their WAS started dating someone, etc.....the detachment came crashing down. Stay diligent on your GAL and 180s. Detachment ebbs and flows. It is okay, just keep working on it.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Steve. Thank you. Very much. That is something that I have wondered about. When she starts “dating” how will I take it. That is very wise advice. Thank you a lot. The only way I think I’ll for sure know how I’ll react is when it actually happens. I would like to think I’ll handle it like a man
I sure am enjoying gal and life and basically every day I’m given. Although I have few odd moments. When I was at concert the other night. A gal asked me to dance. I obliged. And then felt incredibly guilty about it. It’s a strange feeling
R2C. What an amazing idea. A book on goal setting. It so simple. Thanks!
A gal asked me to dance. I obliged. And then felt incredibly guilty about it. It’s a strange feeling
It is important to re-frame interactions with woman.
Where is your line in the sand to protect your current relationship? Is that line in the right place for the current state of your current relationship?
You are doing something right to have a woman ask you to dance. You are doing something wrong when a woman has to ask you to dance.
How do you practice the needed skills to attract woman? Be attractive to all woman.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
What type of EXPERIENCE do you want every woman you interact with to have? This including your W.
Reflect back on the past 5 interactions with woman you had. What did THEY EXPERIENCE in your presence? What were they FEELING?
The last woman I interacted with was at the coffee shop. I made her laugh. (She felt good) I also recalled our last interaction when I tried the drink she recommended. (maybe she felt special that I remembered her).
Before that was the cashier for lunch. Again, I made her laugh. (Feels good)
Before that, was my mother. we had lunch. I listened to her, validated her experiences.
Before that, a cashier. Items were by the lb. I ask if people were picky about the exactness of 1/4 lb. She said some are crazy picky. Of course, I start pointing out the extra .02 lbs of meat. She smiled.
With my lady, I focus on all her feeling. Make her feel safe, sexy, desired, important.....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
What type of EXPERIENCE do you want every woman you interact with to have? This including your W.
Reflect back on the past 5 interactions with woman you had. What did THEY EXPERIENCE in your presence? What were they FEELING?
The last woman I interacted with was at the coffee shop. I made her laugh. (She felt good) I also recalled our last interaction when I tried the drink she recommended. (maybe she felt special that I remembered her).
Before that was the cashier for lunch. Again, I made her laugh. (Feels good)
Before that, was my mother. we had lunch. I listened to her, validated her experiences.
Before that, a cashier. Items were by the lb. I ask if people were picky about the exactness of 1/4 lb. She said some are crazy picky. Of course, I start pointing out the extra .02 lbs of meat. She smiled.
With my lady, I focus on all her feeling. Make her feel safe, sexy, desired, important.....
Holy crap... that's a lot of work. I tend to treat males and females similar / neutral... don't know if that's beta or peter pan / bro behavior.
