Slow and Steady

[Jac12]

Update:

I had made the decision that this would be the wknd I go into full toilet training mode for my son. When I told my W the plan and that she would have to be on board with it for her day (sunday) she just kind of expected she'd come and help for all three days. I said that sounds like a plan.

So when she came today she brought her overnight bag and put it in the spare bedroom. Her plan was to crash here tonight (she's at a friends bday party tomorrow night) as it's just easier.

After her nap in the afternoon I told her that I didn't think her staying over was the best idea. I said if she wanted to hang out a bit after he goes to bed I'd be good with that but I thought it was better for my mentality that she didn't stay here until she wanted to stay with me in our bedroom. She respected and understood where I was coming from but I think she was surprised to hear me say that.

Then I said: "If you want to spend some time after our son goes to bed I'd be happy to do that"
W: " Well I'm not sure I want to anymore" (with a laugh)
Me: "Yeah I kind of figured it might put a dent in it, and that's fine but I just think it's better right now this way"
W: "Yeah, I get it. It's no problem."

So then after we put S to bed she came downstairs and I asked her if she was going to stay for a bit. Her response "no I'm going to get going and get a good sleep".

It makes me feel like she may not be coming around as I thought...but maybe she's just upset that I didn't let her stay. I don't know but it would sure feel nice if she decided she wanted to spend time with just me.