He's still out there! Be thankful he is not living under your roof any longer. That poor dog isn't feeling well because of the cracked tooth. Evidently, he didn't take the dog in for your former SIL to check him over before advising you that he had gum issues. What a putz!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.