This concept of wanting an apology is totally normal. I am 5 yrs. post BD and divorced. I no longer crave it because I know I truly deserve it. I was far from perfect. But I deserved better - not because I am so great, but rather, because his treatment towards me was so disproportionate to what I was owed after so many good years.

This is on them. In the end, I feel sorry for them. Stable people don’t do these sorts of things. They have lost the plot.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced