I guess I feel like detaching would be able to come to the realization that she is going to do her thing, and whatever happens happens, that I cant change her actions or feelings and I that I need to accept the reality of the situation. That way I don't dwell on where she's at, what she's doing, wondering if she has any second thoughts or remorse, what the future is going to be, what happened to the wife I knew, and instead learn to focus on myself and my life without her. To get back to who I was, a focused, driven, goal orientated, hard working, passionate about whatever I was doing person.
We had a guy here that was separated from his W and she had a restraining order against him. He had no contact with her at all. And he still struggled with what you describe here.
Detachment comes from within you, and happens in spite of external factors when you decide to prioritize yourself.
Go find yourself. If getting a new job or whatever is what that takes, then do it. Just don't delude yourself into thinking that there are quick fixes to the flood of emotions that you feel.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
