At that time of year when my parents begin thinking about sending out Xmas cards. Mum was worrying about whether to send W's parents a card. I said she should and just act normally. She was also wondering whether she should send W a card too.
Yes I agree with you, send them and act normal. Warn them that W might tell her parents not to send one back though, so it's important to have no expectations.
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Also, I think if she does send W's parents a card, W's mum will call my mum soon after probably, out of politeness. If W's mum asks my mum about me, should I tell her to say I'm doing well, gym-ing, therapy's gone brilliantly, etc. How much is too much detail to go in to? Or just say "He's fine," and leave it at that?
Yes like the other said just keep it brief. "He's fine, he's been really busy lately." The one thing I would tell them is to absolutely NOT discuss the R.
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Should I give W an Xmas present (nothing ostentatious at all) and/or card?
Normally we suggest taking the kids shopping to buy the WAS something, but you don't have kids. I would suggest you politely tell her that you assume that based on the current situation between you that you won't be exchanging gifts and ask her to confirm. Some people will tell you just don't buy anything and don't say anything, and that's not a "wrong" approach either. Personally I lean towards communication when it comes to these awkward situations though.
