On another note, what has been everyone's experience and observations regarding physiological/chemical issues with their WAS and their current state of affairs? To my knowledge, my W 43 has not been been screened for pre-menopause, depression or had her hormone levels checked out. She has been complaining of abdominal/uterine discomfort for a couple of days and is going to her doctor today to get looked at.
To be clear, I am NOT looking for an answer from a doctor that would miraculously help my sitch, but if it were me, I'd certainly want to get checked out physically before I made life-altering decisions like those W has made/is considering.
I'm sure you've seen that we often say to let go of the need to know "why". I've watched years and years of people trying to diagnose their WAS here and it never amounts to anything. Even if you could figure out if she has some kind of mental health ailment, she's not going to be interested in treatment because she is convinced that you are at fault for every problem great and small in her life and getting rid of you is the answer. Many people have sent their WAS info on MLC, menopause, the negative effects of long-term anti-depressant usage, etc. etc. and it absolutely falls on deaf ears.
That said, I am absolutely convinced that many sitches here are the direct result of a mid-life change. Call it menopause or whatever, but it seems quite clear to me that some people do change at some point in their life and change quite dramatically. My XW was one of them. A lof of LBS's are so confused because there is just no making any sense out of it. It's some chemical change in the brain or something, and it's notable that almost all LBS's describe their WAS as if they've been taken over by an alien. They cease being who they were and convert into someone we barely know or recognize. When I was in high school a friend had a traumatic head injury after getting hit by a car. He fully recovered, but he had a completely different personality. Was very bold and assertive before and became very meek, mild and quiet after. It's very similar to the "before" and "after" personality transition my XW went through (except in her case it was the opposite). Medical science does not understand why these things happen. Maybe they will some day and come up with a treatment, or better yet, preemptive steps to prevent it from happening in the first place.
