I cheated, we survived, now my wife's cheating

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I've asked my boss to move me to a different location. He won't. I work for a family owned bank, live in a very rural area, and they have a non-compete agreement when you first take employment with them. I have been looking into different areas or even some additionally schooling if I could find a job that would get me away from my job.

The OM was my biggest customer, have 8 years of history with him, have bought dinners for him when I seen him or his dad at a restaurant, he was somewhat of a friend, stopped by my house and visited unexpectedly several times, text me and stopped in my office after my 3rd daughter had a stint in the NICU. Then went after my wife, comes in the bank more than he ever has, all my other customers (mainly farmers) all know he's with my wife, my interactions with a lot of my customers have changed because it the elephant in the room, a decent portion of them will be going on that trip here soon because its a company sponsored trip at an all inclusive for all the seed customers from the area.

I will never be able to detach, seeing him almost weekly, he walked in the bank at 9am, and all I can think is my wife left his bed within the last hour. It seriously just gives me a panic or anxiety attack every time. I can't, I just can't stay here anymore.