Again scout a pleasure and glad to help you with your self reflection.

Yes she would really say that even when there was nothing that could really be done. Thankfully I was not often ill.It’s awful to remember but a few days after my dad passed I was still recovering and I remember her getting angry and yelling at me for being withdrawn and telling me to snap out of it. It’s like I was under her spell. I always felt less than worthy of this strong powerful woman and the fact she pursued me made me feel like I was someone special and obligated to compromise how I felt. She loved me but didn’t respect me I think. That she was quite insecure about what I saw in her and that I would leave her only added to my confusion.

That’s great your h is getting counseling! That is really positive and I want you to think positive about it too. I only wish my XW would get it.

No you don’t sound bitter at all. It helps telling your story. I think unlike you I didn’t accept all my xw’s faults, but I did love her unconditionally and would do anything for her if that makes sense

I think, like you, I didn’t have much to compare her with as my previous long term relationship ended up with me essentially being her carer due to illness so it was a relief when that finished and meeting my XW later and how different she was

Anyway, what gal have you and your son got planned for the weekend?

Me: early 40's
XW: nearly 50
T: 15
M: 5
BD: Jan 19
S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24