"Do something about it!" - wow, really? That's ice cold. Inconvenient is exactly how I'd describe it. Like a blot on their otherwise picturesque life. My H would also tell me how to fix things and had little patience or empathy for things he did not or could not understand.
Well, now I'm not sure what was truth regarding his character. He had some good qualities - he was funny, affectionate, intelligent, friendly. Gosh, I'm really struggling to think of positive meaningful characteristics to describe him. Kind? Not intrinsically. Thoughtful? When it was expected, for special occasions. Empathetic? Definitely not. Judgemental, weak, shallow - yes. Deep down, I knew these things about him. I loved him anyway. It seems more and more likely that this is simply his character and the mask slipped. Perhaps he had to run away because I saw the real him.
I honestly don't know if he's capable of better. He said two weeks ago that he was in counselling. That he spends an hour a day exercising, meditating, communing with nature. I wouldn't have expected him to be so willingly introspective. I wonder what he is learning about himself, if anything.
Do I sound bitter? I don't feel that way. For years I accepted him for who he was, perhaps to my own detriment. It's kind of freeing to realise I do still accept him, it just doesn't have to affect me any more.
