My H's attitude towards my PND is best described as hands-off. Like a pat on the head - "there, there" - and a robotic inquiry of "what do you need?" The implication being, go and sort yourself out and come back when you're fixed.
Wow, that's just awful Scout, I'm so sorry you experienced this. Can I say this really resonated with me because I had a back injury a few years ago and basically got the same type of treatment, like it was an inconvenience to my XW. Then again, I shouldn't have been surprised, because i was told point black several times that she has no empathy. To her credit, she was very vocal and persistent in telling me what I should be doing to fix it, wanting me to operate even though I wasn't a candidate, and was very concenred about the risks anyway. I was left feeling as though she didn't care to the extent it didn't effect her. "Do something about it!" was her mantra whenever I was unwell. There were moments of tenderness though when she told me she wanted me to be well, so we could grow old and die together like in the Tom Cruise movie Oblivion, which was our favourite movie, that I can never watch again. It was all so, so confusing. Sorry, rant over.
Originally Posted by scout12
integrity, honesty, courage; all the qualities I value above all else, and wish to instill in my son.
These are wonderful qualities, and your son is lucky you are there for him.
The impression I get from your comments is that your H was seemingly like he is throughout. Is that right, or did he change for the worse? I sincerely hope H comes around and returns a far better H and father.
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24
