You are all correct. I don't want to pick up that paddle. I'm a work in progress but I fully intend on keeping up the GAL and distance. It's quite obvious she pursues when I do. The difficult part is that the pursuit feels so good. It has been a long time since she "chased" me and it's hard not to get sucked in. I am planning on staying calm and continuing the self growth.
What do ya'll think about:
1) Continuing GAL, distance, and living my best life (for the WIN) 2) Not rejecting or pushing away small advances in flirting, physical affection, etc., but rather, being coy, confident, and elusive. Essentially playing hard to get. 3) If it gets to the point that she decides to ask me out on a date, I only accept if there are no other players in the game.
Part of me feels like this game plan is a win-win for me. I still want to get to a point similar to Bluwave where I know without a shadow of a doubt that I would be just fine without her. I'm making progress, but it's a long journey still to come I'm sure. As always, thank you guys for listening and being such a great sounding board.
Kristin
LBW 32 - me WW 31 T 7 M 4 No Kids 4 dogs
Separated 1y Navigating the mine field and GAL with or without
