Her: kids have said they want to wake up Xmas morning here, Its your week so you will see them Xmas eve day and I will pick them up Xmas eve day and drop them at yours Xmas day for lunch. I would also like to see them boxing day for a walk.
I think that would be best so they can open presents at both houses. I would also like to go out new years eve, but it's my week with kids if you had plans? We can check with each other re presents so we don't double up
Gave it 10mins Me: if I can have some time to think about it all, and best way to do all this Re: presents, Yes, we can do the same as s12 birthday.
Her: I Don't want to eat either at mine or yours, kids don't care about lunch. I don't want to spend Xmas with you and won't change my mind.
Me: I understand you don't want to spend Christmas with me , it's about time spent with them.
5min pause
Her: you are getting to see them more than me over Christmas as it's your week, if they want to be with you that's fine, I'll have them for lunch, whatever they want I'm fine with.
Me: and me, just want to ensure it's fair on everyone
Her: half and half is fair. I'm just trying to organise everything.
Haven't replied yet, this is tough, on the one hand I feel she is dictating On the other I don't know how to handle this 1st Xmas, one of us is going to miss out on kids going to sleep Xmas eve and waking up Xmas morning.
The kids come 1st, but they have been changing their minds depending on whom they are with.
If I suggest she has them am I being the bigger man or placating.
