I've never posted to you before but was drawn to the title of your thread. I'm in the same boat right now: trying to figure out some boundaries, figure out why I want to set boundaries and how to do so. I went in search of information and I hit the jackpot! You have had some wonderful advice on this thread. I even printed some of the stuff Meredith wrote to you.
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remember reading a great technique on these boards once about mirroring back all of the critisisms that get thrown at you. If he says you are ALWAYS this or that, go into a monotone and say, "Yes, I am always this or that, you are so right, I am an imperfect human being". I did that for awhile and found that my H actually started to defend me! DBing is all about doing what works so try things and monitor.
I love this by Talitsa. I never thought about it this way but I'm gonna try it!
Quoting Cathy:
Quote: have never tried this, but am going to give it a try! The way my H talks to me some days you'd think I was the most awful/stupidest person around. Thank goodness I know better,
Hey Cathy! I'm following you around. Once again, we are on the same wavelength! I, too, know better. I was thinking about this yesterday. I AM a good person, and I AM attractive. I don't care WHAT he says. I'm just his excuse.
Sorry for the hijack Nitaf. It's one of those days.
Once again, we are on the same wavelength! I, too, know better. I was thinking about this yesterday. I AM a good person, and I AM attractive. I don't care WHAT he says. I'm just his excuse.
It's one of those days.
